Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move on -- Together or Apart Contributor(s): Snyder, Douglas K (Author), Baucom, Donald H (Author), Gordon, Kristina Coop (Author) In the aftermath of infidelity, couples often struggle with emotional turmoil and sometimes make decisions they later regret. This resource helps them overcome the initial shock, understand what happened and why, and think clearly about their best interests before they act.